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So your Best Buddy is getting married and you couldn’t be Happier for him, and now he’s asked you to be a Groomsman, or even the Best Man, what do you do?
Consider the Honor of the request, then think about if you will have the time, budget and energy to fulfill your duties. If it would be too much of a burden for you for personal, financial or other reasons, be honest and say so. Maybe you can offer other support or assistance along the way.
However, if you are able and willing to be an Usher, Groomsman or the Best Man (even if it may be stressful at times) then of course, SAY YES!! That’s what friends are FOR!
Here are some of the responsibilities of the Groomsman (Ushers) and Best Man to keep in mind: $$- Rental (or Purchase) of your Formal Wear including Shoes and Other Accessories, Grooming, Vacation Time from Work, Travel Expenses, Co-Hosting a Bachelor Party, and Gifts.
- Consider your work schedule and if you will need or be able to take any vacation time to attend the wedding, including the rehearsal and Bachelor Party or other pre-wedding celebrations.
- If the wedding is out of town, consider the cost of travel, transportation and accommodations.
- If you are Co-Hosting a Bachelor Party, Jack and Jill Party, or other celebration, decide what you are able and willing to spend as a co-host, and also on any Group Gift or Individual Gift for each event, including the Wedding.
- Planning a Wedding, or being engaged to someone planning a Wedding can be very stressful at times. Your friend or relative will need your support throughout the process. Whenever possible, offer to do something together that will help him relax and de-stress such as Golfing, Hiking, Fishing, Working out at the Gym, Bowling, Surfing, a Guy’s Night at a local pub, playing poker or attending a Sporting Event…
- Just Have Fun, Relax and Take it Easy!
- Offer assistance to the Groom-to-Be with tasks such as ordering Formal Wear, Booking Travel Arrangements, Reserving a Rehearsal Dinner Location, or other event related errands.
- Help Plan and Co-Host the Bachelor Party, Jack & Jill, or other Pre-Wedding Celebration for the Groom.
- Attend the Rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner, ask questions if you aren’t sure of your duties as Ushers, it is better to ask than to make a major Faux Pas when seating Family Members or other guests.
- Assist the Groom on the Wedding Day-getting ready and being on time to the ceremony. Do your best to be aware of details such as where and when photos will take place, as well as your role in receiving lines and/or the grand entrance at the reception.
- Prepare a toast for the Rehearsal Dinner or Wedding Reception. (technically this will be the Best Man’s Task-but it may become necessary if he is unable to make a toast for any reason) or just in case the opportunity arises and you would like to say a few words to offer your Love and Support for the couple.
- Look your best and be respectful of the seriousness of the occasion. This is your friend/relative’s Wedding Day, no matter what the level of formality of the event, do your best to be clean shaven, sober and properly dressed.
Follow these guidelines and you will be a Great Groomsmen!
For the Best Man, you will have some Extra Duties in your Role:
Some of the extra responsibilities of the Best Man Include:
- Attend Formal Wear Fitting or Tailoring Appointment and Take charge of Rental Returns for the Groom
- Make sure the Groomsmen have their attire taken care of, including Boutineers and other Accessories and that they are on time getting to the wedding and any pre-wedding events. (You can also appoint a “Head Usher” to help you with these tasks)
- Assist the Groom getting ready on the Wedding Day and getting to the Ceremony on time.
- Hold the Bride’s Wedding Ring during the Ceremony and present the ring when queued.
- Dance with the Maid of Honor during any formal dances and be available to dance with bridesmaids if requested.
- Prepare and Make a Toast to the Bride and Groom at the Wedding Reception (and Rehearsal Dinner if the opportunity arises).
Enjoy the Honor of your Role and being an important participant in this very Special Occasion!